Sex toys provide a different way to enhance your sex life, either as a couple or as an individual, but, how do you use a sex toy to feel pleasure and not hurt yourself?
Lía Walsh, sexologist and psychotherapist, explains how to manipulate sex toys in an easy and pleasurable way in an interview for LoveSeduction.net.
Based on information from Brown University, there are several different sex toy tips that can produce everything from tickling to vibrations. Some are designed to be used gently.
Nevertheless, there are other toys with textures that can be used in S&M, domination and submission practices, as well as whips, blindfolds, handcuffs, harnesses, rings and anal beads.
It is important that if you are interested in using any of these accessories with your partner, you should have open communication, so that he/she does not feel threatened or obligated by your proposal.
How should sex toys be used?
Sex toys can be an option to have sexual pleasure individually or as a couple, they have to be used in the framework of respect and always with the authorization of both parties. In addition, it is important to keep them clean to prevent them from becoming a focus of sexually transmitted infections. For this reason, keep in mind the following:
- The cleaning of sex toys depends on the material they are made of, be sure to follow the instructions on how to clean and store them.
Wash them with soap and water before and after using them or sharing them with your partner. - Using a condom or dental dam can help keep them clean and prevent STIs. Be careful! You should change it if you are going to share the toy with your partner.
- If you are going to use the toy in the anus and then in the vagina, it is important to clean it first or change the condom that protects it, to prevent bacteria from the anus from reaching the vagina and causing irritation or infection. This applies to any orifice of the body.
- If you use a sex toy in the anus, use a lubricant to avoid injury, and remember that the anus does not lubricate itself.
- When using a sex toy in the anus you must make sure you can hold it firmly all the time, to prevent it from going inside and you cannot take it out. In that case you will need medical assistance. We recommend that if you are going to use toys for anal stimulation you look for one specially designed for this.
- Finally, to be on the safe side, use toys that are manufactured for this purpose, especially if you are going to insert them into your body, so you will avoid causing yourself any harm.
Honestly and communication are the best strategies to talk to your partner about sex toys, make him/her understand your interest, limits and explain how an item can enrich your relationship. What about you, have you ever used a sex toy?
